AT THE MOVIE, Week 2, Wonder Movie on Compassion



A scene from Wonder:

Dear God please make them be nice to him!!!Augie’s Mom Julia Roberts

You would have to say Auggie has it rough.  He has Treacher Collins disease and his life is a struggle.  He needs compassionate people around him and compassionate people come from a compassionate God. 

COMPASSION: Comforted to Comfort Others

“God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted.”     Matthew 5:4

A comforting verse for everyone who has had to mourn. But sometimes it seems to take forever for the blessings to come. Grief is a process and works on its own timetable and sometimes it feels like it takes God a long time to get there!!

God has hand in helping us through those times of grief.  He is always there by our side, and He is always available for comfort.  And He is in the process of making people more and more compassionate…remember he comforts us so that we can comfort others. 

But to truly understand compassion we have to know the compassion of God personally if we don’t know God’s compassion in my life, I’m not likely to show compassion to others. 

So here’s a couple points about being compassionate like God.


         Happy all the time    

People think as Christians we should be happy and skipping and always happy!! 

“There is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven . . . A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance.”            Ecclesiastes 3:1, 4

It’s not possible to be happy all the time. And God doesn’t expect that of us. As Christians, we are subject to all the same feelings as anyone else; happy, sad, bored, miserable, elated, etc. God is not disappointed with us when we feel negative emotions.

 ? Grief is Essential to My Health

He understands how we feel. He wants us to turn to Him with our pain and frustration. He wants us to lean on Him, and seek His wisdom and strength.

? If I don’t let it out,

                 I’ll act it out                .

If I don’t let it out (in healthy ways),

I will act it out (in Unhealthy ways)

  • When you don’t grieve, you get stuck emotionally at that stage.         
  • If I don’t talk it out, then I take it out on others.

“When I refused to confess my sin, my body wasted away, and I groaned all day long.” Psalm 32:3

1. If I don’t grieve the loses in my life, my distress gets worse! Sometimes mourning and weeping is appropriate.  Nothing wrong with it.  There is a lot of pain on this planet.  God doesn’t want us to smile and be happy all the time.

2. We can’t bottle up grief and expect to just ignore it. Healthy grieving includes finding ways to express that grief in a constructive way. 

“But as I stood there in silence—not even speaking of good things—the turmoil within me grew worse.” Psalm 39:2


1.        God Draws us Close to Himself.      

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Psalm 34:18

God chooses to be close to those who grieve, to the brokenhearted. He desires to be our rock, and to allow us to lean on Him. The peace of God, through the Holy Spirit, is always available to us. Even in our pain, He is near to us. His promise is sure – we are never separated from God and His love, no matter our fears or feelings.

“I will never leave you and I will never abandon you.” Hebrews 13:5

“Our hearts ache, but we always have joy.” 2 Corinthians 6:10

2.             God grieves with us.       

“He was despised and rejected—a man of sorrows, acquainted with deepest grief.” Isaiah 53:3

God weeps with us.  He is a sympathetic God.  He teaches us to grieve with others…to have compassion for others!

“When Jesus saw her weeping and saw the other people wailing with her, a deep anger welled up within him, and he was deeply troubled.  ‘Where have you put him?’ he asked them. They told him, ‘Lord, come and see.’ Then Jesus wept. The people who were standing nearby said, ‘See how much he loved him!’” John 11:33-36

God knows what it’s like to grieve. Jesus wept at the death of Lazarus. Heaven wept at the death of Jesus on the cross. We don’t have to hide our grief and sorrow from God. He grieves with us. God is right there beside us.

“He has sent me to tell those who mourn…he will give a crown of beauty for ashes, a joyous blessing instead of mourning, festive praise instead of despair.” Isaiah 61:2-3

3. _God gives us a church family for support.___


“So it is with Christ’s body. We are many parts of one body, and we all belong to each other. . . .Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other. . . .Be happy with those who are happy, and weep with those who weep.” Romans 12:5,10,15

You weren’t meant to go through grief on your own!

Comfort can come from our church family and our church friends, if we allow them to help us. It allows comes from our own families.  Having others praying for us is comforting. Others lifting us up in prayer can lessen the burden we bear alone.

One of the best ways we can show compassion is to pray for a person…Because we are not bearing it alone. We have other brothers and sisters in Christ who are helping to bear our burdens. And not just by praying; our church and community provided meals for me and my family after my stroke.  Spiritual, emotional, and physical needs can all be addressed by a loving church family.  We are called to comfort each other and give each other strength. (1 Thessalonians 5:11)

You either need comfort or you need to be a comforter.

If you care, you will be aware.  How can I be aware of others pain?

1. Never minimize others pain

2. Never rush people


4.         God Uses Grief to Help Us Grow.         

1. He Brings Good out of Bad

“And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” Romans 8:28

Will your pain make you bitter or better?

2. He Prepares us for Eternity

“For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever! So we don’t look at the troubles we can see now; rather, we fix our gaze on things that cannot be seen. For the things we see now will soon be gone, but the things we cannot see will last forever.”  2 Corinthians 4:17-18

Trials and Frustrations make us better prepared for Eternity!  They let us see God’s purposes in our lives.

  • Another way God uses grief to help us grow is to allow us to use our experiences to minister to others who are experiencing the same thing.

5.       God Gives Us the Hope of Heaven                    

We Have the Hope of Heaven

“We want you to know what will happen to the believers who have died so you will not grieve like people who have no hope.” 1 Thessalonians 4:13

Two kinds of Grief: We can grieve without hope, or we can grieve with hope.

“He will wipe every tear from their eyes, and there will be no more death or sorrow or crying or pain. All these things are gone forever.” Revelation 21:4

God brings great people and great events into our lives.  What we see as a total wreck of circumstances can be a way for God to create something new and unique, and even more beautiful that before.

He creates awesomeness out of disaster!!!

6.     God Uses Our Pain to Help Others.                      

God doesn’t want us to waste a hurt.  Who can better help someone than someone who has gone through the same thing.  Who can better help a mother who has lost a son, than one who has gone through the same thing.  Who can better help someone through the pain of divorce, than someone who has gone through the same thing.  Who can help someone stuck in addiction that someone who had gone through that pain. 

“For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!”  2 Corinthians 4:17-18

“He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.”                     2 Corinthians 1:4

My greatest ministry will come out of my deepest hurt.  What are your struggles with grief? How has God blessed you through pain and grief?

Every day I either need comfort or need to comfort others.

I need help or I need to help others.  One of the two!

“He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us.”                    2 Corinthians 1:4