YOU, ME and WE. Week 1, Recovering Marriage, Mark 10

REDISCOVERING MARRIAGE, AMERICA 2016  (click on title to download message or click about to listen)YouMeWe-Title

6 Reasons Why Marriage Matters

I. HONOR Marriage

Whatever state you’re in – married, single, divorced, or widowed – the Bible commands everyone to honor marriage. The Bible says in Hebrews 13:4, “Give honor to marriage.” Everyone, married or not, should honor earth’s oldest institution.

A. Sadly marriage is no longer honored by Everyone in our society.

  Today, marriage is dismissed as irrelevant by many people. It’s demeaned by many people. People are delaying marriage more and more – many times for the wrong reasons. And

1. Marriage is being redefined. It’s being ridiculed. It’s being demeaned. It’s being denounced. It’s being discouraged. Marriage is disrespected.

2. Part of the problem is that nobody knows the basics of marriage any more. God gave us marriage and He expects the church to stand for it and to support it. Most people don’t know why marriage matters. As we teach from the Scriptures about marriage, there are at least 6 divine Reasons Why Marriage Matters to communicate.  But before we start I have a powerful testimony about honoring marriage and how powerful God is!!

Brandon Tyrone Marshall is an American football wide receiver for the New York Jets of the National Football League.  Here is his testimony…


II. How do we honor marriage

A. 6 Reasons Why Marriage Matters

1. God gave marriage for the connection of Men and Women.

a. Expected Connection

11 But among the Lord’s people, women are not independent of men, and men are not independent of women. 1 Corinthians 11:11

i. God wired it this way. God thought up gender. God thought up sex. What a God! And God thought up marriage.

ii. The Bible says this in Genesis 2:18 “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.” You need helpers in all different areas. Companion can also be used for helper.  There is nothing like the companionship of a marriage.

b. God made them male and female

But ‘God made them male and female’ from the beginning of creation.’ [God made males, God made females. And God chose what he wanted you to be.] This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, 8 and the two are united into one [God sees a married couple as one] Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one split apart what God has joined together.” That passage says three things. Mark 10:6-9

i. Marriage is God’s plan. It’s not a tradition we can just throw out. God invented marriage when he invented you, when he invented me, when he invented humanity. Marriage is God’s plan.

ii. Marriage is between a man and a woman. There are a lot of other relationships but those aren’t marriage.

iii. Marriage is to be permanent. What God joins together – God joins a couple in marriage – no one, no one else, should separate. It’s meant to be permanent. It’s meant to be for life.

2. God Created Marriage for the Multiplication of the Human Race. (to make babies)

a. God chose to populate the human planet through marriage.

b. For thousands of years billions of people have come into existence God chose for everybody who’s going to be in heaven to come into existence through marriage and sex.

Malachi 2:15 has some great words on this,

15 Didn’t the Lord make you one with your wife? In body and spirit you are his.  And what does he want? Godly children from your union. So guard your heart; remain loyal to the wife of your youth. Malachi 2:15

If you’re married and you can’t have kids, God is not disappointed in you. That’s not what this verse is saying. What it is saying is that we’re all alive because some couple got together. For thousands of years God has used marriage to populate both earth and heaven. And if men and women weren’t getting together, marrying and having sex then there would be nobody in heaven.

3. God Created Marriage for the Protection of Children.

a. We all know that kids grow better, healthier, stronger when they grow up in a stable family with a mom and a dad.God knew that human children needed a safe environment.

b.  We need somebody to feed, dress and nurture us. We need somebody to protect, guide, train, care for, and love us!

26 Those who fear the Lord are secure;  He will be a refuge for their children. Proverbs 14:26

3 Children are a gift from the Lord;

    they are a reward from him. Psalm 127:3

4. God Created Marriage for the Perfection of our Character.

God created marriage for the perfection of our character. It is in relationships that we learn to be

a. unselfish and loving.  And no relationship has a greater impact on your life than marriage, if you get married. Maturity and the purpose of life is to grow up and realize it’s not all about you. Life is a laboratory of learning how to love.

Why is love the most important thing in life? Because God is love. And God wants you to become like him. He wants you to learn how to love. We learn to love and learn to be unselfish.

Marriage is a lifelong course on learning to be Christ-like!

Jesus says this in Luke 9:23 “You must turn from your selfish ways”

Marriage is a course in learning to be unselfish because once I get married, I can no longer think about me. I’ve got to think about we. You. Me and We.

The number one tool that God uses in your life to build Christ-like character if you are married is your spouse. Oh no! Yep! Because every day you get hundreds of opportunities to not think about you. You get opportunities to think of the other person, to care about them. The number one purpose of marriage is to make me holy, not happy. That is counter-cultural, but it is the truth.

5. God created marriage for the Construction of Society.

34 Godliness makes a nation great, but sin is a disgrace to any people. Proverbs 14:34

a. Marriage is the fundamental building block of every community, church, state, nation, society and culture.

i. If you know anything about history you know that where marriages are strong, cultures and nations are strong.

ii. You know that wherever marriages and families are weak, cultures and nations are in decline.

b. It’s really obvious what direction our nation is headed right now. America is not getting better. It’s not getting stronger. It’s going the other direction.

i. Why? Because we don’t value marriage and family any more. We value self way more than marriage. We’ve made individualism an idol. 

12 A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken. Ecclesiastes 4:12

6. God created marriage for the Reflection of our Union with Christ.

  1. Marriage is a metaphor. It is a symbol. It’s a walking, living, object lesson of how much God loves us and how we are to be in relationship with him. Marriage is a model of a profound spiritual truth.

Ephesians 5 says, 25 “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loved the church. He gave his life for her… 28 In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as they love their own bodies… 29 No one hates his own body but feeds and cares for it, just as Christ cares for the church. 

31 As the Scriptures say, “A man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.” 32 This is a great mystery, but it is an illustration of the way Christ and the church are one. 33 So again I say, each man must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband. Ephesians 5:25-33

  1. No other relationship on planet earth, including the parent-child relationship, can adequately illustrate our union with Christ the way a marriage between a man and a woman does. This is the strongest reason why marriage cannot be redefined. This is the strongest reason why it must be protected at all cost. Because we are the body of Christ. We are the bride of Christ in union with Christ. And marriage is that metaphor.

Okay 6 reasons Why Marriage Matters… the kick of our Series…

1. God Gave Marriage for the Connection of Men & Women.

2. God Created Marriage for the Multiplication of the Human Race.

3. God Created Marriage for the Protection of Children.

4. God Created Marriage for the Perfection of our Character.

5. God Created Marriage for the Construction of Society.

6. God Created marriage for the Reflection of our Union with Christ.


It really doesn’t matter what other people think about marriage. It doesn’t matter what public opinion says. It doesn’t matter what the opinion polls say. It doesn’t matter what’s politically correct or incorrect. What really matters is what God says. He’s the One who invented marriage.  Amen!!